How does Islam view love marriages?
In Islam, love marriages are generally acceptable as long as they adhere to the principles of Islamic law. The Qur'an emphasizes the importance of consent and mutual respect in marriage. For example, in Surah An-Nisaa, it is stated that let them marry from the believing maids whom your right hands possess
4:25, which underscores the importance of marrying those who share one's faith and values.
Additionally, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ provided guidance on the nature of marriage. Aisha, the wife of the Prophet, narrated that marriage in the pre-Islamic period occurred in various ways, but with the advent of Islam, the emphasis shifted to a more respectful and consensual approach. She stated: Aisha, the wife of the Prophet, peace be upon him, told me that marriage in the pre-Islamic period was in four ways: One was like today's people, where a man proposes to a man or his daughter, she accepts, and they marry. The second was called 'nikah al-istibda,' where a man tells his wife when she has completed her menstruation to seek pregnancy from another man and abstains from touching her until it becomes clear who impregnated her; when it is apparent, the husband then resumes relations, wishing for a noble child. The third was where a group, less than ten, all visited a woman to conceive; if pregnant, after childbirth, they would be called to acknowledge paternity; the child would be called by the name of the man who gained the child. The fourth was when many men visited a woman, especially the slave women—the flags were raised at their doors as a symbol, and whoever wanted would enter. If she conceived, they would gather, make a decision, and appoint paternity. When Muhammad, peace be upon him, was sent with the truth, all these pre-Islamic marriage customs were destroyed except the first form, which remains today.
Sahih al-Bukhari 67:63. This narration highlights that the form of marriage that aligns with contemporary understandings of mutual consent and affection is the one that Islam endorses.
In addition, the Shia perspective also emphasizes the importance of consent and suitable character in marriage, as indicated in the commentary from Majma al-Bayan, which urges that marriages should be conducted in kindness and respect, reflecting the essence of love and partnership.
Thus, love marriages, when conducted with respect for Islamic principles and mutual understanding, are viewed positively in Islam.
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4:25 · An-Nisaa
4:25 · Muhammad Marmaduke Pickthall
وَمَن لَّمْ يَسْتَطِعْ مِنكُمْ طَوْلًا أَن يَنكِحَ ٱلْمُحْصَنَٰتِ ٱلْمُؤْمِنَٰتِ فَمِن مَّا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَٰنُكُم مِّن فَتَيَٰتِكُمُ ٱلْمُؤْمِنَٰتِ ۚ وَٱللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِإِيمَٰنِكُم ۚ بَعْضُكُم مِّنۢ بَعْضٍۢ ۚ فَٱنكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَءَاتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِٱلْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَٰتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَٰفِحَٰتٍۢ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَٰتِ أَخْدَانٍۢ ۚ فَإِذَآ أُحْصِنَّ فَإِنْ أَتَيْنَ بِفَٰحِشَةٍۢ فَعَلَيْهِنَّ نِصْفُ مَا عَلَى ٱلْمُحْصَنَٰتِ مِنَ ٱلْعَذَابِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَنْ خَشِىَ ٱلْعَنَتَ مِنكُمْ ۚ وَأَن تَصْبِرُوا۟ خَيْرٌۭ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ غَفُورٌۭ رَّحِيمٌۭ
And whoso is not able to afford to marry free, believing women, let them marry from the believing maids whom your right hands possess. Allah knoweth best (concerning) your faith. Ye (proceed) one from another; so wed them by permission of their folk, and give unto them their portions in kindness, they being honest, not debauched nor of loose conduct. And if when they are honourably married they commit lewdness they shall incur the half of the punishment (prescribed) for free women (in that case). This is for him among you who feareth to commit sin. But to have patience would be better for you. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
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Sahih al-Bukhari 67:63
Sahih al-Bukhari · Book 67, Hadith 63 · Narrated by Urwa ibn al-Zubayr
Aisha, the wife of the Prophet, peace be upon him, told me that marriage in the pre-Islamic period was in four ways: One was like today's people, where a man proposes to a man or his daughter, she accepts, and they marry. The second was called 'nikah al-istibda,' where a man tells his wife when she has completed her menstruation to seek pregnancy from another man and abstains from touching her until it becomes clear who impregnated her; when it is apparent, the husband then resumes relations, wishing for a noble child. The third was where a group, less than ten, all visited a woman to conceive; if pregnant, after childbirth, they would be called to acknowledge paternity; the child would be called by the name of the man who gained the child. The fourth was when many men visited a woman, especially the slave women—the flags were raised at their doors as a symbol, and whoever wanted would enter. If she conceived, they would gather, make a decision, and appoint paternity. When Muhammad, peace be upon him, was sent with the truth, all these pre-Islamic marriage customs were destroyed except the first form, which remains today.
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