Is it haram to visualize having sex?

The question of whether it is haram (forbidden) to visualize having sexual relations can be approached from both a Quranic and hadith perspective.

According to Sunni scholarship, Tafsir Ibn Kathir emphasizes the importance of avoiding zina (unlawful sexual relations) and even approaching it. Allah commands believers to stay away from the means that can lead to such acts. This guidance reflects a broader principle of guarding one’s heart and mind against temptation. The Prophet ﷺ illustrated this with a poignant example: I have never seen anything more resembling blameworthy behavior than what Abu Huraira reported. He said the Prophet said: 'Allah has decreed upon the son of Adam his share of adultery that he will inevitably commit. The adultery of the eyes is to glance. The adultery of the tongue is to talk. The soul longs and desires. The private parts confirm or deny all these.' Sahih al-Bukhari 79:17SunniSAHIH This hadith indicates that not only physical actions but also visualizing or indulging in thoughts about sexual acts can lead a person down a path of temptation and sin.

From a Shia perspective, Al-Kafi addresses the importance of maintaining purity of thought and action. The emphasis is on avoiding anything that could lead one to sinful thoughts or actions, including visualization of illicit acts. Engaging in such thoughts can lead to temptation and should be approached with caution.

Thus, both traditions underscore the importance of controlling one's thoughts and avoiding visualizations that could lead to sinful desires. It is advisable to strive for purity in both actions and thoughts, seeking refuge in Allah from any temptations. For personal guidance that considers your specific situation, consulting a qualified local scholar is recommended.