Is vaginoplasty after childbirth to improve my husband's sexual pleasure permissible?
The permissibility of vaginoplasty after childbirth for the purpose of enhancing sexual pleasure varies according to different scholarly views in Sunni and Shia traditions.
According to Sunni scholarship, Tafsir Ibn Kathir explains that within the context of marital relations, actions that promote the comfort and pleasure of both partners are generally encouraged, provided they do not contradict Islamic principles. The Quran states, Your women are a tilth for you (to cultivate)
2:223, indicating that sexual relations are a mutual responsibility and should be approached with kindness and understanding. However, the scholars also emphasize the importance of intentions and the necessity to avoid altering what Allah has created unless there is a valid medical reason. This perspective typically encourages discussing such decisions with knowledgeable scholars to ensure that any alterations align with Islamic values.
In Shia scholarship, as reflected in Majma al-Bayan, the notion of improving relations within marriage is also considered, but there is a stronger emphasis on the natural state of the body. Altering it for cosmetic reasons can be viewed with caution unless there is a clear benefit or necessity for health reasons. The Shia perspective encourages maintaining the natural form unless medical evidence suggests that a procedure would significantly enhance the quality of life or marital relations.
Ultimately, both traditions highlight the importance of intention and the need for consultation with knowledgeable scholars regarding personal circumstances. For your specific situation, it would be advisable to consult a qualified local scholar who can provide guidance based on your intentions and the context of your marriage.
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2:223 · Al-Baqara
2:223 · Muhammad Marmaduke Pickthall
نِسَآؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌۭ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا۟ حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ ۖ وَقَدِّمُوا۟ لِأَنفُسِكُمْ ۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّكُم مُّلَٰقُوهُ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ
Your women are a tilth for you (to cultivate) so go to your tilth as ye will, and send (good deeds) before you for your souls, and fear Allah, and know that ye will (one day) meet Him. Give glad tidings to believers, (O Muhammad).
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Tafsir Ibn Kathir on 2:223
Tafsir Ibn Kathir · 2:223
Ibn Kathir begins by recounting the tradition reported by Imam Ahmad from Anas ibn Malik: The Jews used to avoid intercourse with a menstruating woman entirely, neither eating with her nor having sexual relations in the house during her menstrual period. The companions of the Prophet ﷺ asked him about this practice, prompting the revelation of the verse (2:223): "Your wives are a place of sowing for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish." The verse continues with the injunction: "And do not approach them while they are in menstruation until they are purified. And once they have purified themselves..." Upon this, the Prophet ﷺ clarified to his companions: "Do everything except intercourse." When the Jews heard this, they complained that the Prophet intended to differ from them in every aspect. Two companions who had asked him about this, Usaid ibn Hudair and 'Abbad ibn Bishr, noticed the Prophet's displeasure and turned away. Later, they were served gifts of milk by the Prophet ﷺ which they drank, concluding that he held no grudge against them. This hadith is recorded in Sahih Muslim from Hammad ibn Salamah. Regarding the phrase "so keep away from women during menstruation," Ibn Kathir explains it refers specifically to refraining from vaginal intercourse, as the Prophet ﷺ said, "Do everything except intercourse." Accordingly, many scholars agree it is permissible to engage in other forms of intimacy with a menstruating wife, provided the sexual intercourse is avoided. He refers to various hadith narrated by Abu Dawud and others, describing the Prophet ﷺ's respectful treatment of his wives during menstruation, such as resting his head on Aisha's thigh while she was menstruating or throwing a cloth over his private parts if he desired intimacy during that time. Aisha and other wives explain that sexual intercourse is prohibited during menstruation, but all other relations and companionships are allowed without disagreement, confirming the understanding that intercourse is the forbidden act during menstruation. Ibn Kathir also narrates the well-known disagreement about permissible sexual relations with a menstruating wife, especially regarding anal intercourse (referred to as "approaching from behind" or "in the back"). Numerous authentic reports clearly prohibit this act, with the Prophet ﷺ stating it is an abomination and even likening those who engage in it to apostates. Scholars unanimously forbid intercourse during menstruation and consider anal intercourse sinful and impermissible at all times. Regarding the phrase "Your wives are a place of sowing (harth) for you," Ibn Kathir quotes Ibn Abbas and others explaining that "harth" signifies the womb as the place from which children spring. The verse permits approaching one's wife "however you wish" with the emphasis remaining on the vaginal intercourse, meaning one may approach from front or back (i.e., facing her or with her turned away), while maintaining decency and avoiding forbidden forms, but anal intercourse remains prohibited. Ibn Kathir relates the historical context: some companions from the Ansar tribe followed the Jewish custom of limiting sexual relations during menstruation to the edges, and some from Quraysh used to have relations facing forward or backward or lying down. When the Muhajirun (migrants) married women of the Ansar and wished to have full intercourse, the women objected due to their previous custom. The Prophet ﷺ then revealed this verse to resolve the matter, making clear the halal scope of sexual relations. He also discusses the varied scholarly views about whether the allowance to "come to your harth however you wish" extends to all forms of sexual approach except in the prohibited areas or is instead limited. The majority position—endorsed by scholars including the Shafi'i school and Imam Ahmad—restricts the permissibility to vaginal intercourse excluding the forbidden acts such as anal intercourse. The verse's command to "fear Allah and know that you will meet Him" serves as a reminder to observe divinely ordained boundaries in marital relations, emphasizing mindfulness of God's command and accountability. In summary, Ibn Kathir's tafsir of Ayah 2:223 clarifies that: - The verse responds to questions about menstruation and sexual relations. - Sexual intercourse is forbidden during menstruation until the woman purifies herself. - Other forms of intimacy and companionship are permitted during menstruation apart from intercourse. - Approaching one's wife sexually is permitted "however you wish" within the limits prescribed by Allah, allowing facing or turning away but forbidding anal intercourse. - This ruling came after differing customs existed among the Companions influenced by Jewish and pre-Islamic practices. - The verse concludes with an exhortation to piety and awareness of God’s reckoning. This detailed commentary incorporates hadith from Sahih Muslim, Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, Ibn Abi Shaybah, and others, as well as statements of major companions and early scholars, noting differences of opinion but highlighting the predominant scholarly consensus prohibiting intercourse during menstruation and the severe prohibition of anal intercourse in marriage.
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