Teaching daughters to be self reliant?
Teaching daughters to be self-reliant is an important aspect of their upbringing in Islamic teachings. There is a hadith that highlights the importance of treating daughters kindly and raising them well. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: Whoever raises three daughters well, educates them, marries them off, and treats them kindly, will have Paradise.
Sunan Abu Dawud 43:375. This narration emphasizes the value of nurturing daughters and ensuring they are educated and prepared for life.
Additionally, there is a narration from Al-Kafi that reflects on the historical context of treating daughters with respect and dignity. A man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said, "I gave birth to a daughter and raised her until she grew up; I adorned her and dressed her, then I took her to a hole and threw her into it. The last thing I heard from her was her saying, 'O my father, what is the expiation for this?'" He asked, "Do you have a living mother?" He said, "No." He asked, "Do you have a living maternal aunt?" He said, "Yes." He said, Be good to her, for she will be like a mother to you and will expiate for what you have done.
Al-Kafi 1:576. This narration underlines the importance of valuing daughters and ensuring they are treated with care and kindness, highlighting their right to a good upbringing.
Ultimately, these teachings underscore the significance of fostering independence and self-reliance in daughters, allowing them to thrive in society while being supported by their families.
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Sunan Abu Dawud 43:375
Sunan Abu Dawud · Book 43, Hadith 375 · Narrated by Abi Sa'id al-Khudri
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, "Whoever raises three daughters well, educates them, marries them off, and treats them kindly, will have Paradise."
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Al-Kafi 1:576
Al-Kafi · Book 1, Hadith 576
A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him and his family) and said, "I gave birth to a daughter and raised her until she grew up; I adorned her and dressed her, then I took her to a hole and threw her into it. The last thing I heard from her was her saying, 'O my father, what is the expiation for this?'" He asked, "Do you have a living mother?" He said, "No." He asked, "Do you have a living maternal aunt?" He said, "Yes." He said, "Be good to her, for she will be like a mother to you and will expiate for what you have done." Abu Khadijah said, "I asked Abu Abdullah (peace be upon him) when this was?" He said, "It was during the period of ignorance, and they used to kill daughters out of fear that they might be taken captive and bear children for other nations." — OR — I asked him about the saying of Allah Almighty: 'We will show them Our signs in the horizons and within themselves until it becomes clear to them that it is the truth.' He said: Allah shows them in themselves deformity, and He shows them in the horizons the collapse of those horizons upon them, so they see Allah's power both in themselves and in the horizons. I asked: Until it becomes clear to them that it is the truth? He said: The emergence of the Qa'im (the one who rises) is the truth from Allah Almighty, which the people must see.
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